Ilmu Ikhlas adalah sebuah pelajaran hidup yang harus diterapkan setiap saat dalam hidup.
Ikhlas berarti tidak terikat pada sesuatu (harta, tahta, perasaan) yang berlebihan, bahasa jawa-nya: " kemilikan"
rasa terikat/ memiliki yang berlebih akan menimbulkan banyak hal negatif seperti: iri, dengki, serakah, posesif, dll
Jika pikiran sudah dipenuhi hal negatif, maka ucapan dan tingkah laku akan menunjukkan hal yang negatif pula, jika dilanjutkan maka akan terbiasa menjadi negatif dan pribadi serta karakter akan terbentuk menjadi karakter yang negatif....-sudah terperosok dan masuk dalam lumpur-
Dalam Alkitab (agama Kristen) tertulis: "Tak seorangpun dapat mengabdi pada dua tuan. Karena jika demikian, ia akan membenci yang seorang dan akan mengasihi yang lain, atau ia akan setia kepada seorang dan tidak mengindahkan yang lain. Kamu tidak dapat mengabdi kepada Allah dan kepada mamon" (Mat 6:24)
Memang dalam dunia ini kita memerlukan mamon (harta, tahta, dll), memang boleh kita hemat, tertib dan boleh mengelola hal-hal duniawi tersebut namun keterikatan kita haruslah pada Sang Pencipta bukan pada mamon.
Harta dan kekuasaan harus digunakan dengan baik untuk mencapai tujuan kita, " Ikatlah persahabatan dengan menggunakan mamon yang tidak jujur supaya jika mamon itu tidak dapat menolong lagi, kamu diterima dalam kemah abadi" (Luk 16:9)
oleh karena itu, jika kita terbiasa untuk ikhlas, kita akan mampu melepaskan hal-hal duniawi, sehingga saat kehilangan kita tidak mejadi depresi, gila, marah berlebihan dll karena kita percaya Tuhan mengambilnya untuk digantikan dengan yang lebih baik.
-Ambil intisarinya, mari berbagi untuk hidup yang lebih baik-
Sunday, October 20, 2013
Life is a Circle
This is true that all things always walk in a circle, or we can say a cycle
Last Friday (Oct 18th) night, on my way to meeting with a friend in Mall Taman Anggrek (we can called: A), i was texting with another friend (we can called: B). i asked about the meaning behind B's statement on the bbm "menuntaskan lakon hidup sebagai manusia" or we can say "Accomplishing our life story".. B told me that was a result of 'AHA" things when she saw a man, who become one of a victim of Jogja's earthquake some time ago, struggling to get up from his lowest condition. He showed us that as a children of God, we must accomplishing what God's want from us (life purposes), he also showed us a great attitude that we must accept God's Plan on us and keep fighting until the end.
Then our discussion continued. I asked B, "how to find what God's really want from our life? how can we understand that? how can i understand or hear His answer of all this?" many questions i asked B during our discussion. B said that i am not alone on that.... everyone feel the same as i did; just keep on searching and exploring my anxieties and i will find all the answer one at a time.
I told B that i really admire B and our other friends who have conquer their fear and living a live that they love, giving up their job and start their own life. B told me that i should look deeper inside their life before, they have done so many things to explore their anxieties and step by step conquer their fear, once we have done our first step than we can see the road ahead become clearly.
Than, our discussion have to be paused for a couple hours because i have reached MTA and meeting with A.
I think we all know at least already heard that our mind is like a giant magnet, we can attract what us really want to. For a couple hour meeting with A, i'm amazed that our conversation just like continuing what i have been discussed with B earlier, A was telling how A struggling to find the answer about A's anxiety and problems and how A finally decided giving up the job that already giving so much in hers life (as you know, A was a GM in our company and resigned and now doing things she loved). It's really amazing, unbelievable..
After meeting A, i told B how our conversation seem continue with A and finally A give me some advice:
1.Keep struggling with your anxiety and problems, you are NOT alone
2. One step at the time
3. Don't forget to pray because He is Almighty
4. Everybody need to change and have courage
So many years back, in my life, i learned everything about CHANGE with a powerful lines "Everything is Possible if you REALLY Want to", i have motivated others to change and have courage to live their dream. Now, this word back to me....remind me of old times...remind me of those power lines.... i have to out from this mud and live better and better live.
I really thank God that He has giving me really great friends in my live. Friends that could inspired others, could be a role model to others, could be a great friend.
But sadly that i still stuck inside this comfort zone, i have to be more struggle to find the answer and to have more courage to move on to a better life.
Thank you all my friends...sorry that i still have so many weakness and i'm sorry that i have disappointing you rather than make you proud.
Since i'm in Jakarta, so many things happened and shocked me out.
So many thing to do, i have to "scan and defrag" this branch out. The older ways/ methode in working so messed up.
Yes, i will not talked about the ruins but i just have to CURHAT because it's getting burdened me.
Member of our team were not too big, it's about 25 people in our division, my team member is only 5 people including me. As we know, older members' reaction will be: welcome or not welcome (obviously) plus! the surprizing reaction was "welcome" (and stab me in the back), it really happened !!
Now, back to the office condition.
I'm moving in while my admin head was taking her maternity leave for 3 months so i could not get data(s) so accuratelly and i have to become admin head to...
My marketing team member: one is getting off from this company, so psychologically this person's heart and mind are on somewhere else plus this person leaved me a bunch off homework. My other marketing member is a spoiled little brat.
Well, i have to clean up someone else's dirts while my sales target is so..so...big that i have to achieve really hard to do that in the same time.
Now, it had been about 8 months since i moved in, this place is getting neat, the administration problems now only a few (thank you our admin team!), the NPL is almost zero (Bravo collection team!!) and the only problem remain is the character of the people (siiiighhhh)
Well....still there are burdens in my head and heart, but i cannot tell you here....i cannot tell everybody else..i only could tell Jesus and Mother Mary in my pray....
My friend said this afternoon: Just hold on, buddy. Believed that a more beautifull rainbow in the end of this...Just hold on.
Yeah, after andrea bocelli's now Il Divo's...
Il Divo is one of a great vocal group. The vocalist have their own "Timbre" (warna suara), powerful and the songs is also great.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Il_Divo :
Il Divo ("divine male performer" in Italian) is a multinational operatic pop vocal group created by music manager, executive, and reality TV star Simon Cowell. Formed in the United Kingdom, they are also signed to Cowell's record label, Syco Music.[1] Il Divo is a group of four male singers: French pop singer Sébastien Izambard, Spanish baritone Carlos Marín, American tenor David Miller, and Swiss tenor Urs Bühler. To date, they have sold more than 26 million albums worldwide.
The idea behind Il Divo's creation came to Cowell after hearing Andrea Bocelli singing Con te partirò while watching The Sopranos. In 2004, G4, a quartet of operatic male singers, also appeared in the UK on the Simon Cowell TV show X-factor. They finished runners-up, but were signed by Sony records. Aware of this new appreciation for lyrical voices and classical music, he decided to form a multinational quartet (the members hail from Spain,Switzerland, France, and the United States, the name being in Italian) that tried to recreate the style of The Three Tenors.
Simon Cowell conducted a worldwide search for young singers who were willing to embark on the Il Divo project, which lasted two years, from 2001 until December 2003, when the fourth member of Il Divo, American tenor David Miller, was signed. The well-established formation of Il Divo comprises a renowned Spanish baritone, Carlos Marín; two classically trained tenors, Swiss Urs Bühler and American David Miller; and a French pop singer,Sébastien Izambard.
Now let me pick some songs for you, this songs are the best song (for me), so enjoyed :-D
NELLA FANTASIA
Italian Translation
English Translation
Nella fantasia io vedo un mondo giusto,
Lì tutti vivono
in pace e in onestà.
Io sogno d'anime
che sono sempre libere,
Come le nuvole
che volano,
Pien' d'umanità
in fondo all'anima.
Nella fantasia io
vedo un mondo chiaro,
Lì anche la notte
è meno oscura.
Io sogno d'anime
che sono sempre libere,
Come le nuvole
che volano.
Nella fantasia
esiste un vento caldo,
Che soffia sulle
città, come amico.
Io sogno d'anime
che sono sempre libere,
Come le nuvole
che volano,
Pien' d'umanità
in fondo all'anima.
In my imagination I see a fair world,
Everyone lives in
peace and in honesty there.
I dream of souls
that are always free,
Like the clouds
that fly,
Full of humanity
in the depths of the soul.
In my imagination
I see a bright world,
Even the night is
less dark there.
I dream of souls
that are always free,
Like clouds that
fly.
In my imagination
there exists a warm wind,
That breathes on
the cities, like a friend.
I dream of souls
that are always free,
Like clouds that
fly,
Full of humanity
in the depths of the soul
THE MAN YOU LOVE
Si me ves hallarás en mis ojos el amor eres tú la mitad que a mi vida completó Lo que soy te daré sin miedo a algun error creo en ti y dejaré en tus manos mi ilusión. Quiero estar dentro de tu corazón, Poder lograr que me ames como yo.
I only wanna be the man to give you everything I can every day and every night love you for all my life. I don't wanna change the world as long as you're my girl it's more than enough, just to be the man you love.
Quiero ser el lugar donde puedas refugiar el temor y calmar en mis brazos tu ansiedad Desde hoy voy a ser todo para ti Hasta ayer te soñé y ahora estás aquí Quiero oir tus secretos, lo que sueñes descubrir, quiero amarte así.
I only wanna be the man to give you everything I can every day and every night love you for all my life. I don't wanna change the world as long as you're my girl it's more than enough, just to be the man you love.
I only wanna be the man to give you everything I can every day and every night love you for all my life. I don't wanna change the world as long as you're my girl it's more than enough, just to be the man you love.
Just to be the man you love
I Believe In You (Je Crois En Toi)
Lonely, The path you have chosen A restless road, No turning back One day you Will find your light again Don't you know
Don't let go, Be strong
Follow you heart Let you love lead through the darkness Back to a place you once knew I believe, I believe, I believe In you
Follow your dreams Be yourself, an angel of kindness There's nothing that you can not do I believe, I believe, I believe In you.
Tout seul, Tu t'en iras tout seul Coeur ouvert A L'univers Poursuis ta quete Sans regarder derriere N'attends pas Que le jour Se leve
Suis ton etoile Va jusqu'ou ton reve t'emporte Un jour tu le toucheras Si tu crois si tu crois si tu crois, En toi Suis la lumiere, N'eteins pas la flamme que tu portes Au fonds de toi souviens-toi Que je crois que je crois que je crois Que je crois, En toi
Someday I'll find you Someday you'll find me too And when I hold you close I'll know that is true
Follow your heart Let you love lead through the darkness Back to a place you once knew I believe, I believe, I believe in you
Follow your dreams Be yourself, an angel of kindness There's nothing that you can not do I believe, I believe, I believe, In you.
AMAZING GRACE
Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound, That saved a wretch like me. I once was lost but now am found, Was blind, but now I see.
T'was Grace that taught my heart to fear. And Grace, my fears relieved. How precious did that Grace appear The hour I first believed.
Through many dangers, toils and snares I have already come; 'Tis Grace that brought me safe thus far and Grace will lead me home.
When we've been here ten thousand years Bright shining as the sun. We've no less days to sing God's praise Than when we've first begun.
Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound, That saved a wretch like me. I once was lost but now am found, Was blind, but now I see.
Don’t Cry For Me Argentina
It won't be easy, You'll think it strange When I try to explain how I feel That I still need your love, After ll that I've done You won't believe me All you will see, Is a girl you once knew Although she's dressd up to the nines At sixes and sevens with you
I had to let it happen, I had to change Couldn't stay all my life down at heel Looking out of the window Staying out of the sun So I chose freedom Running around trying everything new But nothing impressed me at all I never expected it too
Don't cry for me Argentina The truth is I never left you All through my wild days, My mad existence I kept my promise, Don't keep your distance
And as for fortune and as for fame I never invited them in Though it seemed to the world They were all I desired They are illusions They're not the solutions They promise to be The answer was here all the time I love you and hope you love me
Don't cry for me Argentina
Don't cry for me Argentina The truth is I never left you All through my wild days My mad existence, I kept my promise Don't keep your distance
Have I said to much? There's nothing more I can think of to say to you But all you have to do Is look at me to know That every word is true
Don't cry for me Argentina
Time To Say Goodbye (Con Te Partirò)
Quando sono solo sogno all'orizzonte e mancan le parole (When I'm alone I dream of the horizon and words fail)
si, lo so che non c'e luce in una stanza quando manca il sole (Yes, I know there is no light in a room when the sun is absent)
se non ci sei tu con me / con me (If you are not with me / with me)
su le finestre (at the windows)
mostra a tutti il mio cuore che hai acceso (show everyone my heart which you set alight)
chiudi dentro me la luce che / hai incontrato per strada (give to me the light / you found on the street)
con te partiro (with you i will leave)
paesi / che non ho mai (countries which i have never)
veduto e vissuto con te (seen and experienced with you)
adesso, si, li vivro (now, yes, i will live them)
con te partiro (with you i will leave)
su navi per mari (on ships across seas)
che, io lo so / no, no, non esistono piu (which, i know, no, no, no longer exist)
con te io li vivro (with you i will live them)
quando sei lontana sogno all'orizzonte e mancan le parole (when you are far away I dream on the horizon and words fail)
e io si lo so che sei con me / con me (and I do know that you are with me, with me)
tu, mia luna, tu sei qui con me (you, my moon, you are here with me)
mio sole, tu sei qui con me, con me, con me, con me (my sun, you are here with me, with me, with me, with me)
con te partiro (with you I will leave)
paesi che non ho mai (countries which i have never)
veduto e vissuto con te (seen and experienced with you)
adesso, si, li vivro (now, yes, i will live them)
con te partiro (with you i will leave)
su navi per mari (on ships across seas)
che, io lo so / no, no, non esistono piu (which, i know, no, no, no longer exist)
con te io li rivivro (with you i will reilive them)
con te partiro (with you i will leave)
su navi per mari (on ships across seas)
che, io lo so, no, no, non esistono piu (which, i know, no, no, exist no longer)
con te io li rivivro (with you i will reilive them)
Io con te! (I'm with you!)
con te partiro (with you i will leave)
su navi per mari (on ships across seas)
che, io lo so / no, no, non esistono piu (which, i know, no, no, no longer exist)
con te io li rivivro (with you i will reilive them)
con te partiro (with you i will leave)
su navi per mari (on ships across seas)
che, io lo so, no, no, non esistono piu (which, i know, no, no, exist no longer)
con te io li rivivro (with you i will reilive them)
Io con te! (I'm with you!)
Come What May (Te Amare)
Italian Translation
English Translation
Nunca me he sentido así hoy mi vida tiene al fin razón como un angel llegaste a mi y te entregué completo el corazón.
Oye mi canción, solo es para ti voy a hacerte para siempre feliz te adoraré, te cuidaré yo te amo y juro serte fiel.
Te amaré te amaré a tu lado aquí me moriré.
A salido el sol desde que te encontré Hay al fin color gracias a tu querer Por tu a mor, mi vida tiene razón de ser Estoy enamorado.
A donde vayas iré Allí estaré Al fin del mundo yo te acompañaré Contigo todo lo puedo lograr Yo te amo por una eternidad.
Te amaré te amaré a tu lado Aquí me moriré Yo te amaré te amaré Yo te amo Yo te amo
A salido el sol desde que te encontré
Te amaré te amaré A tu lado Aquí me moriré.
I have never felt like this Today my life at least makes sense Like an angel came to me And made the Heart complete
Hear my song just for you I will make you happy forever I'll adore you I'll worship you I love you and swear to be faithful
I will love you I will love you By your side I will die here
The sun rose since I met you There is at last colour thanks to loving you For your love my life has reason to be I am in love
Wherever you go I'll be there At world's end I'll accompany you With you I can do anything I love you till eternity
I will love you I will love you By your side I will die here I will love you I will love you I love you I love you
The run rose since I met you I will love you I will love you By your side I will die here
Andrea Bocelli, one of my favorite singers. As you know, he sings many genre of music but basically he sings classical song but if you ever heard him collaborating with other singers like Tony Bennett, Celine Dion, etc wow....the music will never be the same again...so gentle, light, refreshing and i can getting flow with his voice....
So, i 'll share some of the songs' lyrics.... enjoy it :)
SOGNO
Va ti aspettero' II fiore nel giardino segna il tempo Qui disegnero' il giomo poi del tuo ritorno Sei cosi sicura del mio amore Da portarlo via con te Chiuso nelle mani che ti porti al viso Ripensando ancora a me E se ti servira' lo mostri al mondo Che non sa che vita c'e` Nel cuore che distratto sembra assente Non sa che vita c'e` In quello che soltanto il cuore sente Non sa
Qui ti aspettero' E rubero' i baci al tempo Tempo che non basta a cancellare Coi ricordi il desiderio che Resta chiuso nelle mani che ti porti al viso Ripensando a me E ti accompagnera' passando le citta' da me Da me che sono ancora qui E sogno cose che non so di te Dove sara' che strada fara' il tuo ritorno Sogno
Qui ti aspettero' E rubero' i baci al tempo Sogno Un rumore il vento che mi sveglia E sie gia' qua
English Translation:
DREAM
Go then, I will wait for you The flowers in the garden will mark your absence And rejoice the day of your return Of my love you are so sure So sure you can take it with you Cupped in the hands that you raise to your face As you still think of me And if you need to, you can show it to the world A world that couldn't begin to understand what lives In an uncaring absent heart That couldn't begin to understand what a heart can truly feel
This is where I will wait for you Stealing imaginary kisses as time goes by Time, time cannot erase the memories and the desire That you cup in the hands you raise to your face As you still think of me Throughout your journey it will lead you back to me For I'll still be waiting here, dreaming Dreaming of your unknown whereabouts Picturing the scene you'll return to, and how you'll return I dream
This is where I will wait for you Stealing imaginary kisses as time goes by Dream A noise, the wind awakes me And you're already here
SOMEONE LIKE YOU (E SARÀ A SETTEMBRE)
There’s a wind that blows It’s calling your name And it speaks to me again and again Telling me go to her Don’t let her go Hold her close to you Then you will know the meaning of love Exactly what it’s all about The feeling that I get when I can’t forget Everything that makes me want to [you] That’s how deep it goes All I really know Is that I love you so and
If it’s the only thing I ever do Then I know it’s true That I should love someone like you Someone who believes in me Makes my voice to sing with a heart so free As sure as I can be For me if one dream can come true Then I will love someone like you
In your eyes I see A life that could mean so much more With you next to me And if time is cruel Well I won’t run and hide I could walk through fire with you by my side Cause after all if we want forever There’s a hand to hold Through the sad and cold When nobody wants to know you
So never let it go and you’ll never be alone knowing that I love you so and
If it’s the only thing I ever do Then I know it’s true That I should love someone like you Someone who believes in me Makes my voice to sing with a heart so free As sure as I can be For me if one dream can come true Then I will love someone like you
So never let it go and you’ll never be alone knowing that I love you so and
If it’s the only thing, the only thing I ever do Then I know it’s true That I should love someone like you Someone who believes in me Makes my voice to sing with a heart so free As sure as I can be For me if one dream can come true Then I will love someone like you
Then I should love someone like you
Dare To Live (Vivere)
Try looking at tomorrow not yesterday And all the things you left behind All those tender words you did not say The gentle touch you couldn't find
In these days of nameless faces There is no one truth but only pieces My life is all i have to give
Dare to live until the very last Dare to live forget about the past Dare to live giving something of yourself to others Even when it seems there's nothing more left to give
Ma se tu vedessi l'uomo Davanti al tuo portone Che dorme avvolto in un cartone, Se tu ascoltassi il mondo una mattina Senza il rumore della pioggia, Tu che puoi creare con la tua voce, Tu, pensi i pensieri della gente, Poi, di Dio c'e solo Dio.
Vivere, nessuno mai ce l'ha insegnato, Vivere, non si può vivere senza passato, Vivere è bello anche se non l'hai chiesto mai, Una canzone ci sarà, qualcuno che la canterà
Dare to live searching for the ones you love (Perché, perché, perché, perché non vivi questa sera?) Dare to live no one but we all (Perché, perché, perché, perché non vivi ora?) Dare to live until the very last (Perché, perché, perché la vita non è vita) Your life is all you have to give (Perché) non l'hai vissuta Vivere!
Dare to live until the very last (Perché, perché, perché Ia vita non è vita) Your life is all you have to give (Perché) non l'hai vissuta mai
I will say no (I will say yes) Say dare to live Dare to live
This Quotes means: A true friend is one who helps you when you are in need.
This Quotes proved themselves when I was in really in bad situation.
I heard a shocking news in sept 2011, knowing that my father had metastases on his liver.
The long story was begun in about June 2011, that was when my father had a very bad cough. We thought that it might be just a common cough and my father had gone to a doctor and drinking his medicines. This cough didn't getting less at all in fact that i heard that he cannot get up from bed for a week and he did not want to go to the doctor, "No, I'm only "masuk angin", it will be okay if i drink this jamoo". Well, my father really hard to himself.
Yes, we've met several times since his ill and sound like his cough not too hard anymore and still thought that it just common cough. in september 2011, his youngest brother take him to have a lab checking...the result was so shocking!! He has metastase (Cancer spread) on his liver, hearing that kind of thing my head spinning around, my heart was trembling don't know what to do.
And the story continues...my father's youngest brother is very kind. He took my father here and there to consult with the doctor, trying acupuncture etc just trying to relieve a little bit. My father lost about 20-35KG of weight during his illness...2 weeks in adi husada hospital surabaya and about 12 days in RKZ hospital at malang.
Our God is so kind, He is all mighty...during our bad condition supporting my father's medical treatment so many family and friends come to visit. Their visit showed how much they care to us, CARE! that's all matter....
My dearest uncle Hari Susanto, my mom's family, dearest friends....thank you for supporting us, stand beside us and pray hard for us...God Bless U all....
i don't want to tell all complete story about my father's illness and funerals.....still we all missed him...
(to my dearest step mom and my younger brother......PLEASE DEH!!)
Well, this "quotes" is often heard on motivational event, but this quotes has proven on this story:
Just a little story when i was on my way home from out of town.
I was using airplane back form Jakarta to Surabaya, it was about 10pm and i know that we are all tired, sleepy and wanted to get back home ASAP.
Well, i also had very bad headache but still my mind and my eyes are aware. The airplane was just about touching the ground and some of the passenger already turn on their hand phone or their blackberry..."oooohhh what so impatient people" that's what i said on my mind....so many broadcast message on email or blackberry about airplane accident because of radio signal from the passenger just did not wakened up their mind........pleaseeeee deeehhhh....bad habit !!!!
They can complain about anything, about the small thing but they didn't want to be complained at all!!! (another very bad habit). They will stop that habits if something happened (kecentok bahasa indonesiannya eh bahasa jawanya)
Another thing i want to share is Please be patient!
People nowadays cannot wait about 1-2 minutes; on the public transport we cannot wait to get up or get down, we even grumble when the driver don't open the door immediately. We said bad things when something small happened: dirty, wet or whatsoever....PLEASE DEH...!!!!
DO SOMETHING WILL YA!!!!
If you don't wanna experience flood, don't littering; if you don't want to wait, find another way; if you don't want to be late, go earlier...don't complain...just do something...
Well, i don't quite understand what the English for 'lomba mazmur' hehehe
In order to commemorate St. Jacobs Parish in Surabaya, there are so many event held by the committee, such as Psalm singing competition, cooking competition, make up competition, Amazing race, etc.. such a happening contest/ competition....
"Lucky" me, i was half forced to join the psalm singing competition hahaha......yes, everybody from St. Joseph Region (our region) choose me and other friend from choir group to join the competition. The main condition as the participant is never singing Psalm in the church before and of course you can sing!!! wkwkwkwk
Well, actually i could not practicing the song so well, i just look at the text for a glance and "ok, i know the song, i know the tone, i'll practice it later" (bad habit) instead i don't have any music instrument or stamp-flute so......kind a lazy to practiced....
Yaah.... the big day is less than a week, so i (finally) borrow the stamp-flute from mba Dian (thank you mba....) to check the tone from the text but still i could not practicing the song 100% because there was so much to do in the office (pheew)....
Finally, the big day is coming, it was FRIDAY by the way...yes it is working day!!!
without proper preparation, i drove my car to church and still trying to find the right tone to sing...pheww what a mess....i even changing my shirt in the car....(rush hour day), yaah... that day really a messy day.....
Finally, i arrived and hurry up stairs to do (very) little practice with the pianist and to calm myself while waiting the other participant to come.
The competition held at 7 o'clock, with 3 professional judges (that's what they said) sitting quietly, without any expressions and do some notes (notes..notes..notes...) while the participants, who are never had any experience in singing at the podium, get a sudden stomachache, cold fever and hungry hahahahahaha yes yes yes...we are so....nervous....
One by one, the participant singing in front of the jury, while i was waiting on my turn....my hands get very cold getting so nervous...(glek...).....and thanks God it goes so well..., lucky me, we have a group of supporter that continuously giving us spirit to do the best and motivated us....(including spying on judges result hahahhaaaa)
yah...i think i could not express the story so good...i just glad that i am one of the participants and getting 2nd winner for the competition and had my first performance on Sunday, 4th Sept 2011.
My wife sent me this article, it's about the correct meaning of "MANDIRI" to our kids...it's in bahasa indonesia and i didn't translate to English, so i hope this could inspired you.
Saya ingin menawarkan sebuah tulisan tentang
pendidikan anak, yang terbuka untuk dikritik. Saat masih hidup bersama dengan orangtuaku serta kedua adikku saat di Purwokerto, Yogyakarta dan Magelang. Kenangan cara mendidik orang tuaku rupanya sangat mengesan bagiku. Pendidikan yang mengesan itu ternyata ada kaitannya dengan perkembangan parapiskologi seperti EQ ( kecerdasan emosional), SoQ (kecerdasan sosial) atau AQ (kecerdasan "adversity") yang sedang populer sekarang ini.
Beberapa kecerdasan yang ditawarkan oleh Daniel Goleman, misalnya, rasanya bukan hal yang luar biasa, melainkan kecerdasan itu memulihkan kembali "pemahaman" yang benar dalam membangun relasi antar manusia. Pemahaman kembali itu tidak lain sebuah proses membongkar beberapa mitos, yakni keyakinan yang sudah tumpul karena tidak direfleksikan kembali. Salah satu mitos yang ada dalam pendidikan anak adalah pemahaman tentang "kedewasaan seorang anak". Anak yang dewasa adalah anak yang mandiri. Anak mandiri itu mampu mengurusi dirinya sendiri tanpa bantuan orang tuanya"
Pemahaman "kemandirian" itu menggerakkan banyak bapak ibu mendidik anaknya dengan tujuan "mandiri": bisa mengurus dirinya sendiri, tanpa merepotkan ayah ibunya. Itulah yang terjadi, banyak orang tua suka membentak-bentak anaknya karena mereka minta tolong diambilkan minum, minta ditemani belajar, minta ditemani beli sepatu, dsb. Dengan alasan kemandirian itulah, banyak orang tua juga akhirnya membuat acara tersendiri, saat anak anak belajar atau tidur siang, mereka pergi atau menghibur dirinya sendiri dengan nonton TV atau pergi jalan jalan tanpa mengajak anaknya. Kalau ditanya, "Pak, Bu, kenapa anak anak tidak diajak pergi?" Jawabnya dengan entheng, "Lha, anak anak kan harus belajar sendiri dan belajar mandiri, masak belajar saja ditemani. Kami orang tua kan juga mesti punya waktu untuk menghibur diri sendiri. Memangnya kita ini jadi Bapak Ibu harus terus menjaga anak? Nanti kalau sudah nikah, kami juga akan ditinggalkan! Kuno, Mas, kalau orang tua diminta untuk menemani anak belajar, menemani beli sepatu! Kalau bisa kerjakan sendiri, kenapa mesti ditolong? Bukankah pendidikan model "pertemanan" itu membuat anak jadi manja dan tergantung pada orang tua?"
Di balik jawaban orang tua tadi, ada sebuah pemahaman tentang "kemandirian" yang sangat "pragmatis": bisa sendiri. "Kemandirian" dalam bahasa Latinnya itu "otonom", dari kata auto & nomos= auto: sendiri, dan nomos: urusan rumah tangga. Namun otonomi itu diakui adanya justru hanya dalam "RELASI". Semakin banyak orang memiliki relasi, akan semakin jelas "otonominya" : jelas bagaimana dia mengurus dirinya sendiri. Karena itu, "kemandirian" itu hanya tumbuh dan berkembang makin matang dalam "BERELASI". Relasi yang mengembangkan "otonomi" adalah relasi yang membebaskan orang untuk "mengambil keputusannya sendiri". Itulah inti dari "memberdayakan orang untuk mandiri: jadi dirinya sendiri". Persoalannya adalah "bagaimanakah kita akan mampu memberdayakan orang lain jadi "mandiri" kalau tidak mau membangun relasi?
Relasi orang tua dan anak yang memungkinkan tumbuhnya otonomi anak adalah "relasi yang menawarkan pilihan". Sejak mereka sudah mulai bisa mandi sendiri, makan sendiri, mereka bisa diberi pilihan, "Dhe, mau mandi sendrii, atau dimandikan? Mau disuapin atau makan sendiri? Besok mau cari baju baru: dibelikan saja, atau pilih sendiri tapi ditemani? Adhe ditemani belajar, atau mau belajar sendiri?" Dengan berbagai pilihan itu, anak anak akan belajar untuk memutuskan, sekaligus mereka belajar untuk terbuka menanggung resikonya. Itulah latihan yang sangat sederhana, namun butuh ketekunan.
Masih ada banyak kesempatan untuk "menciptakan ruang" agar anak anak belajar ambil keputusan sendiri. Semakin dilatiih untuk membuat keputusan, di situlah anak akan belajar "menjadi dirinya sendiri", bukan menjadi "wayang" atau "copy" dari ayah -ibunya. Kebiasaan "menawarkan" pilihan, akan membuat anak merasa tidak terancam, melainkan merasa nyaman karena dipercaya untuk memutuskan sendiri. Anak itu akan belajar, kalaupun gagalpun orang tua akan ikut menanggung resikonya.
Cara berpikir macam ini, bukankah sebenarnya menjadikan "paham kasih" menjadi konkret: kasih orang tua kepada anak, bukan soal memberi barang atau fasilitas mewah, melainkan KASIH itu berarti "menjadi sahabat" yang membuat anak "TIDAK KETAKUTAN", melainkan MERASA NYAMAN untuk tampil sebagai pribadi. "Dalam ketakutan tidak ada kasih!" Dalam situasi yang tidak takut, anak pun bisa bertanya, "Pak, Bu, boleh nggak saya minta ditemani kalau saya belajar? Boleh nggak saya minta tolong untuk ditemani beli sepatu?" Itulah anak yang mulai mandiri, berani beresiko, juga kalau ayah atau ibunya tidak sanggup memenuhi permintaannya. Namun anak itu tidak lagi "memerintah" melainkan "meminta tolong".Itulah anak mandiri, yang tetap butuh bantuan orang lain, namun ia mengasihi orang tuanya, karena ia mampu menciptakan "ruang" bagi orang tuanya juga untuk membuat pilihan tanpa terpaksa. Dengan kebiasaan begitu, terbukalah harapan banyak anak makin tumbuh manusiawi.
Semoga dengan artikel ini kita belajar menciptakan "RUANG HIDUP" yang membuat siapapun tidak takut berhadapan dengan kita, melainkan mereka TERTANTANG untuk membuat pilihannya sendiri.
Maybe, i have heard "Parents' love is so deep that they could sacrifice their life to their children" is about 1000 times or more...maybe, i also said that to my daughter, to my brother, to anyone else so many times in the past.....but.....tonight.....i saw with my own eyes...i saw their love with my heart....so beautiful..and ironic....(sadly)
This person is my wife relation, she had this cancer for a period of time till now, she have went to china to have a treatment but i think it's only delayed the cancer for a while.
Tonight, we visited her in Husada Utama Hospital. I saw a person who is fighting her cancer, lying in bed with respirator to help her breathe, her skin turn to yellow (maybe she had her liver's activity is down), cannot move, cannot speak, hardly open her eyes...so sad...
but, in her side, her dad sitting in a wheelchair holding the rosary, keep praying for her. Her mom is still healthy, standing beside her bed, praying, motivating her, keeping her comforted, trying so hard to be tough.
What making my heart melted was that her mom's motivating words.....she said (more or less) "Tjuan, if you're cannot holding any longer, you can let it go, in peace", with giving her daughter a gentle caress, and she continued, "everything will be okay, let peace be in your mind. Your child is grown up and we got them taking care, your sister and your team will handle your work...it's nothing to worry about, tjuan.... you can let them go, you can let us go", " your parent is forgiving you already and we know that you had forgive us too, so you may rest in peace..."
Her parents is Praying for her BEST....her parents have their mental ready for the worst thing....so strong, their faith is so BIG....so wonderful...but so sad....so ironic....
This kind of illness that i've never had before, it's hurt!
starting on november that i felt really dizzy and my stomach hurts like being stab by thousands of needle.
So i went to Siloam ER and the doctor said that i have gastritis and indigestion (gangguan pencernaan), there was a funny situation on siloam hospital, i went there by myself with heavy head and ache on my stomach, i went to regristration table and asking about doctor or policlinic but the regristration person said that policlinic were close and suggested me to go to ER, "Ok" i said to her and she asking me again, "are you alone sir? can you make it to the ER?" i answered, " yes, i am and i can hold my pain", the same question were asked by the ER regristration woman to me. Well maybe my face were so pale and put weird grinning all the time.....
So, after having an injection of medicine and taking the pils,the next day i was feeling much better and there goes my days as usuall.
The next month, i eat sour and spicy fish and here we go again.....
hate this stomachache!!!!!
the medicine from the ER were not working as well as i expected so i had to go to the internist and had more treatment for my stomache.
Now, i'm at manado city in the middle of this treatment, really upset though, can't eat this delicious food.....but for my stomach, i have to....
We spent our new year holidays in Malang city, well actually i was hoping that my father would be home like used to be, but he wasn't...so...what the heck! Still i enjoying my holiday though...
I went on Dec 31st in the morning, i stop by at my house and re-planning what would we do next.
My wife asked me to visit my uncle but i missed my mind, i thought it was Dec 30th and i decided to go to Jatim Park 2.
Wow! the Jatim Park 2 was completely different from Jatim Park 1, they have Pohon Inn, Museum Satwa and The Secret Zoo inside.
JP2 location is in front of Batu Night Spectacular, very big. They have pohon inn which is a hotel but design looked like a huge tree, Museum Satwa and The Secret Zoo.
We enjoyed our trip there, visiting the museum and RAIN came down after lunch time! and we haven't went to the zoo yet!! what a perfect time! *sigh....*
Lucky us that the rain wasn't very long, so we could continue our trip to the zoo. i couldn't expressed how am i feeling that afternoon, the zoo was great! They were huge and enjoyable.....
only their price for food and snack really UNenjoyable!!!
but we have to finished our trip earlier because the rain came again and it was quite heavy...
and that's all for Jatim Park 2 (photos are on other blog)
January 1st,
I woke up in the morning and say to my self; "shit, i missed new year celebration last night because i was sleeping!" :(
Usually i woke up all night to celebrating new year but that night i was really tired.......poor me...
This day, i went to Batu again, visiting my uncle's cow farm also to take Davina there, we want to show her the cow, milk cow.....
once again, i have a not very good luck. On the way back, i was stuck in the traffic jam and took 3 hours from Batu to Malang!!! what a day!!!!!
Oh well, i think my ability to write and speak English decreasing, so i have to stop here and continued some other time. Enjoy my picts on other blog...HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
This year i celebrating Christmas not in a special way. Actually, we (me and my wive) could not celebrate anything like the way we used to, now we have Davina in our family, and because she is 2 years old and we could not take her all night long so we celebrate Christmas in other way.
Not having duty to sing on choir in the night before Christmas was making other sensation to me. Usually, i have to be prepared hours before the mass but this year i was free! Yeeii.... hahaha!
So i spent the night with my family, went to lenmarc for the 1st time. Hoohoho....what a perfect time, i brought my cam and we were lucky that the management hired models from Excedio, they were wearing pretty costumes and they were there to pleased the guest by taking pictures with them.
Well, you know me, i made my cam standby and taking picture here and there with my little Davina as my model.
hahahahaha.....
On that night, we were not having plan to watch The Sovyet Star Circus, but finally i bought the ticket and watched the circus...
Well, well well...what a wonderful night before Christmas.....
(for your information, i had choir job in the Christmas morning and the next day)
Mungkin Pernyataan ini kelihatan agak aneh,ya...bagaimana bisa belajar dari diri sendiri?
Hal ini yang aku rasakan saat ini, banyak hal yang masuk di kepala membuat otak ini bekerja lebih kencang (mungkin) ditambah dengan problem di kantor maupun di rumah juga membuat otak semakin kencang bekerja alias pusing hehehe....
Hal yang membuat aku bisa berkata "belajar dari diri sendiri" adalah ketika aku membaca kembali hal-hal yang aku tulis dalam blog ini, membaca tips dan cerita-cerita itu membuat diriku merenung secara cepat (bukan kondisi meditasi diam), hasil dari sebuah penelusuran karakter komunikasi yang menyatakan bahwa tipe "Thinker" adalah orang yang cepat memprediksi/ mengetahui arak komunikasi (dan hasilnya) menarik untuk memperhatikan keseharianku berkomunikasi dengan orang lain (I'll share this after finding the materials). Mungkin orang lain akan berpikir "dukun be'e" hahaha tapi hal ini benar, kita yang memiliki tipe Thinker selalu bisa memprediksi akhir dari komunikasi, suka menganalisa dan cukup mbulet dalam menyampaikan sesuatu hal. Tapi dalam keseharianku, aku harus menemukan cara yang tepat untuk berkomunikasi dengan orang lain yang beda karakter alias memiliki karakter unik.
Kalau mengingat bahwa kita sebagai magnet akan menarik apa yang sangat kita inginkan, maka hal ini benar terjadi, contoh mudahnya aku memiliki staf dengan karakter sangat unik, cukup berbeda dengan orang-orang yang sering aku temui selama ini, tipenya adalah mudah panik, pengen mandiri tapi belum punya kaki kuat, mau terlibat dalam segala hal tapi pengetahuan masih minim, mau bertindak membantu orang lain meski itu tidak diperlukan, dan harus dijelaskan berulang kali mengenai satu hal. Posisit poin dari anak ini adalah keceriaan, sikap optimis dan semangat yang tinggi dalam segala bidang sebuah kebingungan yang cukup tinggi levelnya untuk diriku, di satu sisi melihat semangat anak ini yang cukup tinggi untuk berjuang namun tingkat penangkapan dalam sebuah omongan/ logika masih harus belajar lebih dan lebih lagi..... yang kusebut sebagai magnet adalah, ternyata hal ini terjadi di keluargaku sendiri, kami miliki keluarga dengan tipe yang sama seperti ini, agak berat juga memberinya pengertian akan maksud dan tujuan kami.....(capek bener). Fyi, i'm still not finding the right way to make our communication better yet, do you have any ideas? share it with me please...
B. The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho) sebuah inti dan perenungan
Buku yang sangat disarankan untuk dibaca pertama kali bila ingin membaca karya Paulo Coelho ini sangat mendobrak pikiranku, cerita dari buku ini adalah seorang pemuda yang selama ini memiliki hidup seperti kehidupan orang-orang di desanya mendapatkan mimpi yang sama beberapa kali, dia mencari arti dari mimpi ini dan dari saat itulah dia mengalami petualangan yang cukup menarik.
Dia bertemu dengan seorang Raja yang bernama Melkisedekh (memang si Paulo ini banyak bercerita dari sisi agama kristen) yang memberinya petunjuk pertama kali bagi anak ini tentang hal-hal dalam mimpinya sehingga si anak ini lebih bersemangat, hal ini disebut sebagai "begginer's luck" (hoki bagi orang yang memulai sesuatu hal). Si anak mulai mengarungi perjalanannya menuju tempat tersebut dimana mimpi si anak ini ternyata adalah mendapatkan harta karun di lokasi piramid (Mesir).
Dalam perjalanannya anak ini menemui banyak hal yang seringkali membuatnya patah semangat dalam mencapai impiannya seperti: dirampok 3x, menetap di zona nyaman, tantangan alam (badai pasir), perang, dsb namun akhirnya dia sampai di lokasi piramid ini dan TIDAK menemukan harta karun! dia malah dirampok dan perampok ini berkata bahwa anak ini bodoh untuk menuruti mimpi, perampok ini juga bercerita bahwa dia mendapat mimpi ada harta karun di sebuah tempat yang mengagetkan si anak. Di dekat rumahnya sendiri, di sebuah gereja tua yang sudah roboh, dibawah sebuah pohon.
Mungkin aku agak terlalu malas bercerita tentang hal ini, justru yang sedang menari-nari dalam pikiranku adalah aku mau berbagi tentang beberapa hal: 1. Mimpi si anak: cita-cita/ tujuan hidup kita di dunia ini. Janganlah takut untuk bermimpi besar dan jagalah mimpi besar ini hingga tercapai, setelah itu.....bermimpilah lebih besar lagi. 2. Saat kita benar-benar ingin mencapai mimpi itu, alam akan bersatu dan memberikan anda jalan namun kita harus: 3. Aware/ Peka dengan tanda-tanda yang diberikan oleh Tuhan/ alam. 4. Seluruh perjalanan yang kita lalui adalah sebuah pelajaran. setelah kita siap maka alam akan menunjukkan jalanNya kepada kita. 5. Ingatlah bahwa Tuhan menuntun kita dengan cara-Nya dan semua berlaku sesuai dengan waktu-Nya. Saat kita berdoa memohon kepada Tuhan, Dia akan mengabulkan sesuai dengan waktu-Nya, menurut kutipan St. Monica, "Pray Until Something Happened" (PUSH).
masih ada sebetulnya, karena aku baru membaca separuh buku Paulo Coelho "Veronica Memutuskan untuk Mati/ Veronica Decided to Die" namun nanti aja di kisah selanjutnya.
Inti dari kisahku hari ini adalah, aku masih diajarkan kembali oleh diriku sendiri saat aku membaca kembali kisah-kisahku (Aku juga belajar sesuatu saat berbagi kepada orang lain, sesuatu yang baru meski hal yang aku bagi adalah sama), hal ini berkaitan dengan buku yang aku baca, pesan moral dan filsafat yang terkandung didalamnya benar-benar mendobrak pikiranku serta kisah hidupku yang lama, masalah-masalah lama yang harus dibereskan dengan menerapkan pelajaran hidup yang baru diberikan Tuhan. So, please help me by praying to Our God.
